So this is my first blog that isn’t related to the “steps” to happiness. And I’m already struggling with what to talk about. So I’m just going to jump right in with the doubters. You know who you are. The people who don’t believe that you can create happiness. They think it happens or it doesn’t. You may be right. There really is no right or wrong. This can’t be proved, although there is research to support it. It makes sense to me and I love the idea that your peace does not depend on what other people think or do or say. It doesn’t depend on what life throws at you. You can take charge of your life and you can take charge of your feelings. I’m sure not going to leave my peace to fate because fate has a way of biting you in the butt.
It’s ok if you don’t agree with me. I don’t agree with everybody either. You have to do what works for you. But, I hope you give it a try. You have to start with understanding my definition of happiness. It’s a feeling of contentment and peace. It’s not joyful, ecstatic glee. It’s contentment and peace. It’s pretty rare for me to be feeling 100% at peace and content. It happens, but not often. You all know that moment when everything is right in the world. Most of the time I’m somewhere on the scale. I might be tipping more toward angry or more toward sad or whatever. Each day I’m trying to get closer to the happy end. Most days I’m somewhere in the middle. It’s a job. It’s work. It’s intentional and I’m creating it. How? By choosing how I focus my energy and following the steps to happiness that I wrote about earlier. The cool thing is, by working on this and choosing to create contentment and peace, I don’t feel as angry or sad or anxious as I would if I were just blowing around in fate’s breeze. I’m lessening the bad feelings and increasing the good. That’s cool. Every time you chip away at a negative feeling, it gets filled in with peace. What a thought!!!
I think maybe one of the problems people have with this way of life is the idea that they are responsible for their feelings. That’s a hard one to wrap your head around. I can’t wrap my own head all the way around that. Sometimes things happen that would make any sane person angry or sad or scared. That’s true. Nothing wrong with feeling those things. We have to feel those things. But, when we do, we aren’t happy. That’s when I try even harder to follow the steps.
So tell me what you think? Do you agree with the steps to happiness or disagree? Do you agree, but have trouble with them? I would love to hear from you.
Wishing you much peace,