The Steps to Happiness

Such a simple little word – happiness.  We all want it.  So how do we get it?

This site is about my journey to creating peace and happiness and, along the way, I will share what I’ve learned in my research.  I have a Master’s of Science degree in Developmental Psychology.  Big deal – right?  That’s just a fancy way of saying that I like to try to figure out why people (myself included) do what they do and how they grow and change as they age.  I’ve done a lot of research on Positive Psychology and Creating Happiness and I would love to share what I’ve found.  In this blog, I define happiness as a state of peace and contentment.  I often use the words peace and happiness interchangeably.

So, what is happiness?  What makes you happy?  We all have different answers to that.  It could be spending time with family, travel, eating chocolate.  There are endless answers to what makes you happy.  For me, it changes with each second.  But when you get down to the bottom of it, happiness is a feeling.  It’s a feeling of contentment, peace, and joy. It’s that feeling when everything is right in the world.  So how do we “make” that feeling? Good news!  Because happiness is a feeling, we don’t need to depend on anyone else for it.  It doesn’t come from money or relationships or jobs or anything else.  It’s in us.

So what causes this feeling of peace?  Here’s where I may start losing some people.  Everyone is free to believe whatever they want.  That’s what makes this life great!  I believe that God lives inside each and every one of us.  I mean He is actually in there.  Waiting for us to find Him.  That’s what our soul is.  God, or Spirit, or whatever you want to call the Higher Being, is in our soul.  But, he gave us a brain and a free will to think and do what we want.  He’s not in there controlling us.  The problem is, we think that who we are is what we look like and what we think and what we do.  It’s not.  That’s the fake us.  That’s the us that everyone sees. That’s the us that we think is real.  That’s the outside us.  The real us, is the Spirit of God that lives in our soul.  It’s the part of us that is all love and all peace.  It’s what our outside self is trying to get back to.  That’s what causes all bad feelings.  It’s the separation of our outside self (the thinking us) from the inside self (our soul where God lives).  All souls are connected to God.  Because they are all connected to God, every single soul is also connected to each other.  We may be separate people, but our souls are all connected.  So when bad things happen to someone else, it will always come back to hurt us too.

Every single time that we get upset about something, it’s our inside self (our soul) trying to get our outside self to come closer.  When our inside self and our outside self come together as one, then we won’t have any fears and we will be completely at peace all the time.  No matter what happens, we will be at peace.  The world could go even more insane and we would be at peace.  That’s what heaven is.  It’s inside of us.  Heaven is not out there somewhere.  It’s right inside of us living in our inside self (our soul).  Wouldn’t it be nice to live in heaven while we’re on earth!  Great as that would be, we tend to shove it down and ignore our inside self.  We’re ignoring heaven.  Every time we do what our outside self wants and ignore what our inside self is saying, we’re pushing heaven away from us.  Crazy thought.  I do it all the time.

So how do we get our outside self  closer to our inside self?  There are as many answers to that as there are people on earth.  For me, it’s following the steps in this blog.  It’s about recognizing when we have an unhappy feeling, knowing that we are responsible for our own feelings, getting to the root of why we’re feeling unhappy, being grateful for the bad feeling because it gives us the chance to bring our outside and inside selves closer together, and knowing that we are all connected so we have to treat people the way we want to be treated.  Because treating them with love and kindness will actually bring love and kindness to us!  And, last but not least, it’s about spending time with Spirit (or God).  It’s about emptying our mind of all those thoughts that clutter it up so that we can just be with Spirit.  It’s about being in the present moment.  It’s about just being.

I would like for this blog to be about people helping people.  So, tell me what you think.  Are you having trouble finding peace and contentment?  Do you have questions for me?  I would love to hear them.  Let me know.

Wishing you much peace,